What is Erotic Role-Play?
Erotic role-play [ERP] involves imagining, adopting, and acting out specific roles included within a sexual fantasy. ERP essentially transcends the bridge between fantasy and reality, allowing the play participant to bring their fetish fantasies to fruition. Aspects of ERP are present in most if not every BDSM or fetish play scene that involves a power exchange, which is usually the first instance of role-playing in a scene. Ironically, the ability to successfully act out an ERP is a very important feature when it comes to Fetish and BDSM play. The success of an ERP will affect the intensity of a Fetish play scene; the more intensely an ERP is personified, the more profound of an affect it will have on play participants.
ERP depends on the imagination of the play participants and how deeply they want to enact a scene. In that sense, there are limitless variations of ERP scenes because every scene is unique to the fantasy and play participants. The more imaginative, intricate and complex an ERP becomes, the more of an impact it will have on the subjects' mental and physical state. When a play participant acts out an ERP scene, they slip into an altered headspace. This altered headspace keeps play participants in a state of flow which helps actualize the ERP and make it seem more real. Actualizing a sexual fantasy can be very exciting, and that excitement causes physical stimulation and arousal. Furthermore, ERP's are catalysts that improve the transition to and from subspace and Domspace, which are the altered meditative mental states experienced by Dominant and submissive players in a scene. The physical stimulation caused by ERP's evolves directly from the intensity of the role play which is strengthened greatly by talking dirty.
Dirty talk enhances the effect of an ERP on play participants. The most fulfilling ERP's involve heavy dirty talk. Talking dirty heightens the fantasy being played out in ERP's and makes it feel more real, more actualized than if it would without dirty talk. To put this into perspective, we will explore some of the most popular ERP scenarios to play out and discuss how they become amplified through talking dirty.
Top 10 Most Popular ERP Scenarios:
- Professional/Client
- Lawyer and client, real estate agent and client, banker and client, etc. - Boss/secretary
- Employer and employee, supervisor and employee, etc. - Doctor/nurse
- Professor/student
- Gym Trainer/client
- Bad Cop/good Cop
- Pool boy/housewife
- Pilot/stewardess
- Super Hero/villain
- Prisoner/Guard
Look at the first example, professional and client. How would one imagine an ERP scenario taking place with a professional and a client? For instance, imagine yourself as a powerful lawyer handling a high end divorce case for the hottest client you know. This client will do absolutely anything to make sure you win the case in their favor, absolutely anything. Your client begs for your service, and a good lawyer always pleases their client. You slowly get up to close your office door. You draw the blinds, fantasizing about the pleasure you're about to receive and dripping with anticipation. You heart is racing as your arousal peaks. You lock eyes with your client as they fall to their knees and unlatch your belt. At this point, the ERP can go in a multitude of different directions, depending on the level of imagination involved. Though, imagine this exact same scenario without dirty talk, and with both participants as silent agents. Would the fantasy still be as alluring? Would play participants even be able to set up an ERP such as this without dirty talk? No, because dirty talk is imperative to outline and actualize ERP's.
ERP's without dirty talk is like trying to drive a car without an engine, it just doesn't make sense. Dirty talk drives the scene; it makes the players fantasy feel more palpable, really making the player feel like they are the star of their own fantasy. You may not actually be a professional lawyer in your vanilla life with a hot client whos willing to bribe you with sexual favors, but dirty talk can help make that fantasy a reality. Dirty talk involves discussion of the scene with a play participant, outlining the ERP that will take place and bolstering that fantasy with dialogue.
ERP's and dirty talk can be simple or intricate. Whether you're looking to actualize a simple fantasy or a complex one, there are a few things you can do to prepare for a positive experience.
What steps should I take to actualize my own ERP?
1). Write down the fantasy that you want to act out in your ERP. The more confident and certain you are about the ERP you want to enact, the smoother the set-up process will be.
How complex is your fantasy? Will it involve one person or multiple? Where do you imagine this fantasy taking place? Does your fantasy involve props/toys, a specific location, etc.? How much dialogue will you want in your ERP? What kind of play participant do you need to enact your ERP; Dominant, submissive, etc.? How do you want to feel during your ERP? What role will you be assuming? What role will your play participant assume? How will you interact in your ERP? The more details you can outline the better!
2). Find a play partner & negotiate/discuss the ERP.
Take some time to find the ideal person to play with. In this day and age, the easiest way to do that is through Fetish webcam chat. If you desire a more intense ERP, look for Fetish models that have a good amount of experience setting up complex ERP's. Make sure that your play participant understands the expectations of their role and feels comfortable enacting that role fully. Go over any safety precautions that might need to be discussed to ensure the safety of both players during the ERP.
3). Prepare & Play!
After you find the appropriate play participant and have discussed/negotiated the ERP, prepare yourself for what you might experience, both physically and mentally, during the ERP. If your ERP includes harsh humiliation, you may need to mentally prepare for that. If your ERP involves taking on the persona of a villain, you might need to mentally prepare for that. If your ERP involves a lot of anal play that you aren't used to but nevertheless want, you might need to prepare for that. And lastly, prepare to have the most liberating sexual experience of your life.
Final thoughts
Erotic role play is a very important component when it comes to BDSM and fetish play scenes. ERP is the foundation of the power exchange which becomes heightened via talking dirty. Anyone can act out a sexual fantasy they may have through ERP which in some instances can create a meditative and therapeutic experience. Taking the necessary precautions to outline and negotiate the details and terms of an ERP with your play participant will ensure that you have a positive experience. Don't be afraid to let your imagination run wild, it just might lead you to the most enlightening Erotic Roleplay Scenario of your life.
